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People are complex.

We all have our own values and beliefs - some of which serve us and some of which don’t. We all have a voice inside our heads - which can for some of us be wonderfully soothing and encouraging, and for others the voice of dread.

Let’s take the latter for a second…

No matter what you do, the voice whispers or rants in your head telling you that you’ve stuffed up again, you’re a loser and nothing you do is EVER any good. Really encouraging isn’t it? You really feel like going out there and trying something new… NOT!

A client of ours, let’s call him Jim, has been suffering from THE VOICE for years. There have been times when he’s been pretty successful, put a lot of money away, but in recent times, not so.

We’ve been working with Jim for quite a while on a range of issues. One of Jim’s biggest issues was making a decision and taking action. We’d go backwards and forwards for months, Jim would prevaricate and not want to take decisive action until EVERY eventuality was covered and then some.

Frustrating for Jim and us to say the least.

Then a couple of days ago came the breakthrough.

It was the voice in his head!

This is how it went…

If Jim made a decision - he could be wrong. And if so, the voice in his head would call him a loser, tell him that he’d been stupid, that he was no good at whatever, which would then eventually make him feel depressed, so that he curled up into a cacoon and didn’t do anything. And of course this reinforced the belief that "making decisions was bad".

So if you have a voice like that - what can you do to motivate yourself?

You can try and turn the voice off - but that really isn’t going to work. The voice is a part of you and is going to stay.

However, you can do other things (and some of these suggestions may freak you out - but THEY WORK.

You can decide to "fall forward faster". What do I mean? Reframe every "mistake" into "a learning". What did you learn from the events and what could you do differently (maybe better, maybe not), next time.

So the faster you make a decision - the faster you’ll know if you’ve made one that serves you and if not, the faster you can move on and change.

Here’s another angle.

Lee Springer, the American author of 2 acclaimed memoirs "Grand Central Winter" and "Sleep Away School" was a crack addict for 12 years living on the streets of Manhattan, some of the time under a platform at Central Station.

He was asked: "If you could go back and visit young Lee Stringer, what would you tell that child about the world?"

His answer…

"I have no idea. I’ll tell you why: That presumes that I might want to prevent some of the events, and I’m not so sure I do, because we regret the hard times, we regret failure, we regret crashing into a wall, we regret mistakes, but they’re each a chain in the link to right now.

What we suppose we can do is remove them and still keep where we are. I don’t think that’s so. I think you had to be everywhere you were, it all culminates on this moment. So I probably wouldn’t tell him anything. I’d say just keep going."

And finally… If you know you’ve made the right decision, but the voice keeps harping on - you could make it sound like Donald Duck or maybe even move it into some other part of your body - even your shoe!

Sounds freaky doesn’t it? But rest assured, you can do it and it works. I’ve successfully done exactly this with many clients - and the results have been impressive. You can read one such story here. http://www.revealedresources.com/files/Testimonials.html

Finally, if you’re grappling with getting your mindset right and moving on in spite of everything that’s happened in your life, you can access a 2.5 hour live recording of "How to create a winner’s mindset" for only $29.95AUD (Participants paid over $77 to attend)

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